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If We Were Having Coffee – March 2020

Hello everyone! Let’s grab a cup of coffee and have a chat, shall we?

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Today I’m having a hot chocolate though because I love hot chocolates but don’t drink them enough!

If we were having coffee I’d tell you, that although I love traveling, it’s good to be home for awhile! I have a few exciting things coming up this month at home in Chicago and I just missed being in my house!

If we were having coffee I’d tell you, how I started tracking my food in my Fitbit app! I am not convinced I’m doing it right as I’m never sure how much of each thing I’m eating is but I like that at least it gives me a rough idea of what I’m eating and makes me more aware of my choices. For instance, I have been eating less unhealthy snacks! I’m sure I will eventually stop tracking my food again but it’s nice to check in every so often and get a general idea of what I’m consuming. Through that, I also think I might be developing some sort of lactose intolerance… Yikes!

If we were having coffee I’d tell you, that I recently started thinking about how my 29th birthday is coming up, which means that my 30th is right after… Yeah, I’m trying not to worry about it yet but it’s not working! Still, I hear the 30s are a great time so I’m also looking forward to that at the same time. So far it’s a lot of conflicting emotions.

If we were having coffee I’d tell you, I think I missed my calling as a therapist. A coworker was telling me about his goals for the year and then some issues he’s having. At some point I said something that caused him to actually say I had helped him more than his online therapist had (trying to be vague for privacy lols). Now, the online therapist is meant to address one specific thing but still, I think it’s a huge win for me!

If we were having coffee I’d tell you, that I stopped at a fabric store recently after work to look for ideas on what to try to sew and get the stuff I needed for a project I currently have. However I didn’t end up being able to find what I needed easily and for projects I got overwhelmed with trying to pick only one thing in about 2 minutes so I decided to leave without getting anything just yet. Hopefully I can get back there soon so that I can pick something out without a time limit!

If we were having coffee I’d tell you, that I forgot to add an update on my bullet journal for my life recap post last week so I thought I’d add one now! I love doing my bullet journal, even though it’s not very good compared to others I’ve seen. I just have bad handwriting and poor drawing skills so it doesn’t look nice but it’s super fun and I like spending time on it, so I’m not too upset about it. It just makes me feel super creative and it’s very zen to just work on it. Although honestly, I just wish it was cuter so I could share it!

If we were having coffee I’d tell you, how playing the video game Detroit: Become Human has really got me thinking lately! I don’t want to get too much into it because I plan on doing a full review later but I really liked how the game admired bravery and doing the right thing above all else. The story is just clearly superior when you’re trying to do the right thing over the programing for each android. It’s really such a great story!

If we were having coffee I’d tell you, about how my resolution is going. I think it’s basically my goal from a few years ago of “get it done”, which was a way for myself not to put off things that I could or should be doing at that moment. Overall I think I’ve been doing pretty well. This is about small and big things so I’ve been good about washing dishes right away instead of leaving them for later, or starting blog posts when I have a free moment, editing photos even if I’m not posting them right away, and so on.

If we were having coffee I’d tell you, that now that I’m more settled for a bit that it’s easier to focus on my balance in life. I feel like it’s harder to manage at the office as work has been a very negative environment for awhile so even if I need a break, it’s hard to actually get one because it just sucks being there. Working from home it’s easier because I’m not surrounded by it. For my actual life though, it’s great! I have been doing much better at realizing when it’s best to just watch some YouTube videos or something on Netflix and when to be more productive and do some stuff around the house or when to go out for a bit and such.

If we were having coffee I’d tell you, that overall, thinking positively is going well! Honestly, I have really cut back contact with some of the more negative people I know. For example, the girl that decided to swear at me at work tried to “apologize” (basically the managers told her to do so) but I still do not talk to her unless necessary for work related things, and even then I make sure the tone is very clear that I am only going to discuss work items. Now that I’m not worried about her coming over to my desk at any time to talk about something else and then fly off the handle again is really helpful so I can concentrate on my work and not on being on high alert for that thing. Limiting contact with those toxic people is definitely the way to go!

So, what would you tell me if we were having coffee? Let me know!

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  1. Oh no! I’m sorry to hear you’ve noticed a bit of a lactose intolerance. It truly sucks but WELCOME TO THE CLUB lol. Just know that all the recipes & snacks I share on my blog are *always* dairy-free. πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜‰ LOL about the guy saying you were better than an online therapist. WHY is he seeing someone online anyways? Sounds scammy!!

    I can’t wait to see what you end up sewing & again, I’m so curious to see your BuJo. πŸ˜€ GO YOU for really just cutting that toxic co-worker out of your life. She doesn’t deserve to be your friend!! ❀

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    • HAHAHA I know I can def depend on you for dairy-free recipes! I just hope it doesn’t get bad enough that I can’t have ice cream or something, I really only notice it when I have a bowl of cereal with milk so I’m not sure if it’s like the high volume of dairy maybe? It’s not like I can go to a doctor though so I’m just avoiding it for now. And idk if I “should” share why he was seeing an online therapist but I honestly don’t think he’ll mind haha. So our work insurance is pretty invasive (in my opinion) with our health choices and they upcharge anyone who smokes or vapes (he vapes). So anyone who does can do online therapy for a few weeks to find other ways to manage stress or something and once they do they get the fee waved. So it wasn’t a super legit therapy thing bc it was only focused on that but still therapy haha.

      And I filmed a video of my BuJo! Only Jan-Mar but I plan to share it for BirthMay! I might end up filming a new portion and just add it in for the end of March and for April since it won’t go up until May or I might do another video for the next three months later, I haven’t quite decided yet! And THANK YOU for saying that bc other ppl at work think I’m being unreasonable??? I straight up tell them I respect myself too much to put up with that toxic co-worker and they know I’m stubborn af so they know to drop it hahaha! But I agree, she def doesn’t deserve to be my friend! I’ve got wayyyyy better ones (like youuuuuuu!).

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      • Ice cream is hard to live without lol I still have it from time to time & it doesn’t make my tummy feel half as bad as cheese or cow’s milk does for some reason. I hope you get it all figured out! Just do research instead of going to the doctor for now! & oh my gosh, I am laughing harder than I should be. That is *too* funny why he has to do the online therapy!! I feel like most, if not all, people will continue to smoke/vape afterwards & are just doing the therapy to get the fee waived. πŸ˜›

        OH YAY!!! I can’t wait to see your BuJo, whatever you decide to do. πŸ˜€ & no way, I do not think you’re being unreasonable at all! ❀ ❀ Glad your co-workers have dropped it because you're in the right here!!

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      • Yes! I’m def going to continue to pay attention to what causes my tummy to get upset. Cow’s milk def does though! And right!!! He has serious issues LOL. And yes, that’s exactly what happens, they do the therapy and that’s the only requirement, they don’t have to quit so they just keep doing it after. And I can’t wait to share my BuJo!!

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  2. Toxic co workers are a pain! I have hit one who is kind of my manager as we are pair of admins within a team. Admin is new to me and she is driving me mad picking apart anything I write! Although in context of the world as it is at the moment those toxic people seem less important – I hope for you too!

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    • Oh boy! That sounds like such a tough coworker to deal with! You’re totally right, those toxic people ARE less important right now and don’t need to take up previous real estate in your mind. And honestly, yes I haven’t worried about those coworkers as much due to everything and I’m so much better off for it! Hope you’re doing well in these crazy times!

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